Ever Thought Of What Makes You A Good Parent?

It is a common question asked to ourselves that how can we lead a good parenting life. Most of us are worried thinking about the future of our children. But very few of how we can build their future on a right track. That is where a good parenting system comes in to play a very pivotal role in our life.

Parenting is not an easy task but a wonderful period in our life where we could spend our time with our children. They are the future generation. And it is our duty and responsibility to give them the best and guide them to be a good human being. And here are few important practices that you can look into for a good parenting.

Always Guide and Support. Do Not Push and Demand

Most of the parents naturally wants their kids to be successful. Good. All you need to do is support them for their plans, monitor them on their moves and guide them on the right track. Do not push, prod, bribe, demand, or threaten kids with punishment to get them to practice any extra curriculars or on academics to achieve top grades and so on. This will loose their own confidence and will power. The fact is be strict at times where you need to. And at the same time support them, monitor them and guide them. This will create a thought in our kids that parents are the best and they will be happy to share everything rather than keeping things secret or being an introvert.

Let Our Kids Be Independent

We nowadays now the importance of being independent. This helps a lot in ones life to move forward and handle the situations accordingly. Good parents will know that it is much important for kids to do their activities by themselves. The best thing we could do being a parent is get kids to a right place where they can handle things by their own. But at some point of time it becomes hard to tell how much we should we should get involved and how much our kids will be able to figure our things by their own. But if you are able to show your children how to work out a homework, problem, or settle issues with a friend in a respectful way, then no doubt that you are giving your kids the best tool for the future

Kids Are Always Watching

We being an adult will have many things to talk, do, react, etc. But let that be away from our children if it is a space where they should not be involved. Home is the first school for kids and they learn many things there. They observe how we talk, walk, eat, sleep, play, etc. And this is been applied by our kids when they are within their circle of friends. So keep a eye on yourself on what you talk and how you behave. If we want our children to be kind, empathetic, and well-mannered as they grow up, we must try to be on our own best behavior and respectful to others.

Show Your Kids You Love Them

Love is to be expressed and not to be kept inside us without expressing. The reason is kids are not matured enough like adults to predict or imagine how much we love them without even expressing. So express your love towards your kids. We all live in a busy world where both father and mother are busy working all day and night to earn for their living and for their kids future. But trust me, no money can buy your kids happiness when you show love to them and when you are around them. We could see most of the parents, soon after a child is born and after couple of months, a babysitter is appointed with good salary to take care of the kid. Of 24 hours in a day, 12 hours you work for a firm, and 8 hours of sleep. Just 4 hours is all what you have got to spend time with your kids? Rest of the time they spend time with baby sitter and on bed. Express your love to them. Either father/mother try to focus on being with kids until they walk in to schools and meet their friends. Till then it is more important to stay with them and love them. Earning is good enough. But try to sacrifice either on your time or career for a short term just for the sake of your kids. Kids should be grown with their parents not with anyone else.

Apologize For Your Mistakes

This is one of the important thing that most of us would never want to do. Apologize. You preferably teach your kids to own up to things they did wrong by jus apologizing and trying to make up for what they did. Good parents know that all parents can sometimes make mistakes, and they learn from them and show their kids how to take responsibility for their action. Being a person if you have done a mistake while your children are around, then just admit your mistake and apologize for your mistake. This will never drag you to a loss of wealth or status. Instead, you will gain respect and also your kids will learn from you which should be your primary importance. So that tomorrow when they do a mistake they remember this and will apologize for their mistake.

Teach Kids To Be Good People

Yes this is the hardest task being a parent. But this becomes easy only when you are on the same track. Teach your kids to be kind, humble, respectful towards others. Teach them to be charitable, grateful for what they have, and have empathy for others. However, who they are as a person is more important than which award they get. If you forget to teach them how to be good children and good people, they will less likely to be happy and fulfilled, no matter what they achieve and how much they succeed.

Connect With Your Child

Spend time with your children. Make their time memorable. Laugh together and connect positively every day. Whether it's playing, walking, riding, cooking, eating, reading, watching movie, or anything. Good parents consciously spend time having fun and connecting with their kids in small and larger ways.

Talk to your kids, listen to what your kids talk (may be their stories, songs, etc). Just do it with full attention. You will be surprised by how much more you feel connected to your child, and you will likely learn about lots of things your child is thinking and feeling. And the best part is you are making your child feel that there is someone who could listen to them patiently and with attention.

No Gadgets. Step Out And Explore

Gadgets have changed the living style of everyone. But let us make sure that our kids should get exposed to what's happening around. Take them out for a walk, step out with them to game, shop with them at stores, talk to them. That is the best practice you could do. If you want to put your child to sleep, do not show them stories on gadgets, instead tell them some stories which could put them to sleep. Give them a platform to read books. Give them a space to play games. If they have no friends, we parents should be their friends. Gadgets are good for them when it comes to learning technologies and for their academics. Kids should explore the world by stepping out and let us be a role model for them

"Home is the first school. What our kids learn here is what decides them to be in future. So let us make our home a school for our kids who will rule the future"

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DE(Dheeraj Edat)